The topic sounds a tiny lilbit somehow, right? Yeah. I thought same too, but read on and decide at the end which path is cool by you.

We hear a lot of ‘forgive and forget’, and don’t remind me of how the church and ‘Spirikoko’ people always say this almost when the topic of forgiveness is being preached.

If only we knew that this has made many people cover up wounds that still hurt for decades, years, months.

Before you crucufy me, Wait!

Forgiveness is the message of love, the message of being a Christian but it’s okay to remember. I have seen that forgetting has made many of us fall into the same ditch over and over because we think seeing people from the perfect point of view makes them perfect. No one is perfect, no one will be.

If you have been hurt, one of the keys that will keep you from falling into the ditch again is – Do Not Forget Where You Fell.

Don’t discard the pain because you don’t like the scars, afterall the scars are the reminders of what you survived.

Fold it and tuck it as a reminder to tell others your story, if you survived it, they will.

Hiding your pain under the cloak of ‘forgiveness’ is like self deceit. It’s okay to be vulnerable. I have now realised that the more you speak about it – to help others , not to gossip-, the more the pain fades away.

Someone will need that evidence someday to find themselves too.

As long as you are wise enough to understand the fine line between “forgive but remember” and unforgiveness.

Unforgiveness is not the message, the message is Remember and help others and yourself to heal.



feeds and tips from my desk as a fashion teacher, the principal instructor of the leading fashion school in ibadan, oyo state nigeria. i am fully commited to raising entrepreneurs and leaders through vocational education, skill acquisition and entreprenurial studies.

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